Self-Sabotage: Why we run when we are so close to the goal?
Does this sound familiar?
You were on fire for something.
Weeks, months, maybe even years.
The dream job.
The relationship that feels safe and real.
A life in balance, with clarity and focus.
And suddenly: You withdraw. You become distant. You make excuses.
Self-doubt and fear creep in.
Or even more subtly: You blame it on
“needing more focus,”
“more discipline,” or
“more me-time.”
And unconsciously, your inner saboteur cuts exactly the connection you’ve longed for.
Why?
The root lies in your nervous system – not your willpower.
Self-sabotage is not a sign of weakness.
It’s a defense mechanism. An ancient reflex in your body that prioritizes safety over happiness.
Paradoxically, pulling back often doesn't protect you – it leads you back to what's familiar.
The familiar pain.
Because what’s new and different can feel terrifying at first.
If you’ve learned that love can hurt, that success is overwhelming, or that closeness is dangerous –
your system will sound the alarm as soon as you get exactly that.
The right person suddenly feels too close.
The right job feels too big.
The right moment feels too still.
You’re not broken.
You’re conditioned.
When “focus” becomes a disguise for escape
Many people believe they must let go of everything and everyone to be successful.
They cut people off, block opportunities, “cleanse” their environment – hoping to gain more clarity.
But what if, in doing so, you’re pushing away the very people and possibilities meant to change your life?
Doors open for a reason – but it's up to you to walk through them.
What if you can’t even see those open doors, because your gaze is still fixed on past wounds?
This is your invitation to make space and tend to those wounds.
Focus doesn’t mean cutting everything off.
Focus means recognizing what truly expands you – and staying with it, even when it feels uncomfortable.
The fear of your own greatness
One of the biggest blocks on the path to the life you desire isn’t external.
It’s that moment when it becomes real.
That moment when you feel: “This could actually work.”
And that’s when the old programming kicks in:
“Do I even deserve this?”
“Can I really hold onto it?”
“What if I lose it?”
So you let go before it can hurt.
Before someone leaves you.
Before you’re fully seen.
But here’s the magic:
Your next level begins when you stay – despite the fear.
That’s growth.
That’s real self-development.
What You Can Do Now:
Recognize your saboteur: Ask yourself if your decision truly comes from clarity – or from fear of intimacy, control, or visibility.
Learn to receive: Sometimes it’s not about pushing harder – but opening up more. Communicate your fears. Grow through them. The right people and opportunities are your invitation to evolve.
Don’t confuse stillness with isolation: Inner work doesn’t mean isolating yourself from everything. It means staying present as you heal.
Trust yourself more than your old pain:
You’re no longer the version of you that got hurt.
You’re the version that chose to keep going.
You get to choose, moment by moment, who you want to be.
And you get to make things right.
Some doors aren’t fully closed – they just need a little more pressure to open.
Ready to stop self-sabotaging and step into your full power?
Then now is the time to choose yourself again.
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Your growth is not a coincidence.
It’s a choice.
MLTPLY – because you are more than you think.
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More Focus. More Success. More You.